That’s the question you may be asking right now.
You read a little about me on the last page. Basically, I’ve spent most of my life being extremely shy and introverted.
Growing up, I was invisible. In fact, I tried to MAKE myself invisible. Never raising my hand in class, talking quietly, keeping to myself during lunch, not doing much outside the house, not making friends, and so on.
I even remember the first year I moved out of my parent’s house. I was going to a university in Ottawa (that’s the capital city of Canada). I thought I would be able to “start fresh” and let go of my old shyness by moving to a new place. I could make friends and maybe even get a nice girlfriend.
Nope.
My old insecurities and fears came rushing back as soon as I moved into my room. I was living in a big house with eight roommates and… guess what?
I Spent Most Of My Time
Trying To Avoid All Of Them!
Whenever I had to eat, I tried to make sure no one was in the kitchen. I tiptoed around so people wouldn’t hear me going to my room. One time I even overheard a couple of my roommates talking about me.
[quote style=”boxed”]”Did you see Sean this week?”[/quote] [quote style=”boxed”]”No, I barely ever see him at all. What do you think he does all day?”[/quote] [quote style=”boxed”]”Who knows? Maybe he’s sitting in his room watching porn. He’s a pretty weird guy.”[/quote]I felt like I wanted to crawl into a hole.
My extreme shyness was making me isolated from friends… from a girlfriend… from having a life that was actually interesting. And even though I was living in a house with several people, I was starting to feel like a crazy hermit.
I won’t bore you with the details, but I decided to spend several months going through every psychology book that was even a little bit related to shyness. I read scientific studies about what was working, I read the bestselling “Conversation Tips” books at the bookstore, I listened to audio programs and video seminars on confidence.
I Became Obsessed With Finding A Solution To End My Shyness!
And what I discovered is that there really is no one single solution out there.
But… there were one or two useful tips or techniques I could learn from each book or product I went through. And when I combined them all I started to see myself making amazing progress.
Of course, change didn’t happen overnight. Anyone who tells you it does is probably a scam artist.
It took me a few weeks to figure out what worked and really make any progress… A few months later people were starting to comment about how “different” I was. One of my classmates even started calling me “New Sean”.
Now, a couple years later I have a group of friends, a social life, and a girlfriend – something I thought would never happen!
I’m not some super-confident guy. You’re not about to see me singing on stage at a rock concert. (I don’t think that’s the type of confidence you’re looking for either.)
Instead, I’m still a regular guy, but with above average social skills. What does that mean exactly?
Imagine being able to talk to anyone effortlessly. Never worrying about what to say next or whether you’re going to create an awkward silence.
Imagine being able to walk into a room of strangers and confidently introduce yourself to anyone and make a good first impression.
Imagine being able to walk over to someone you find attractive and strike up a conversation… get their number… and go on a date later in the week.
Imagine never being called quiet again.